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October 3 2015:

We (Sumathi Thirumugam and Sivaguru Pattanam Singaram) met each other on October 3 2015.Ours is an arranged marriage and we met through Tamil Matrimony site. Below are some screenshots of the initial discussion before our first meet (Sumathi’s father and Sivaguru’s Brother).

Mail Screenshots:

We met for the first time in ‘Vadapalani Murugan Temple , Chennai . It is a tradition from our side to meet the bride in temple for the first time as a sign of Auspicious beginning. My father has given me some details about the bride that he is into Entrepreneurship and a native of Namakkal(Tamil Nadu).

At the very first sight , I got an intuition that he is the best person for my life. We spoke for few minutes and instantly liked each other. Back home we had told an ‘Yes’ to both our families.
Every year this day , we use to visit the same temple and cherish the memories.

All the talks between the family got over in a week and soon we entered into the preparation for Engagement. Our engagement was fixed on Nov 8 2015. It is a tradition from the Groom',s side to get the Sarree for the bride for the occasion. 

Below is the pic taken on the day of Sarree Purchase.

Nov 6 2015:

It was my birthday and husband has taken me to a beautiful location by the beach side , gifted me a ring and we took the scenic East Coast Road route to reach my native as it was our Engagement in two days.

Pic below:

Nov 8 2015:

After a good week of purchase and arrangements, the D Day arrived. Below are some pics from the Engagement Ceremony. The traditional ceremonies were followed along with Kith and kind.

Though ours is an arranged marriage, we had a good gap between the Engagement and the wedding. My husband's brother was at US and we had to wait for him to join our wedding.So our wedding was planned on July 10 2016.

This gap gave us a platform to bond together and we were so involved in each other's lives. 

We met almost alternate days as both of us were in Chennai. Movies , Beach , Parks, Hotels ,walks, long drives etc etc.. This period gave us so many memories.

Below are some pics during our dating days.

Jan 1 2016:

We went for a trip for the New Year to Ooty. It was an awesome trip as it was the first of its kind together. We have been to so many other trips thereafter but this one is the most memorable one. Below are some pics from our Ooty Trip and New Year Celebration.

Munnar Trip:

We also travelled to Munnar , one of the best Tourist Location of South India. It was a big road trip and we covered almost all the places of Kerela.

Below are some screenshots from the trip.

April 9 2016:

Husband's Bday Celebration

It was my husband's first birthday after we met and I wanted it to be more special. I decided a Blue theme for the decoration and gathered all the pics that we have taken in the last six months and threw out a cool party.

May 29 2016:

Before the wedding date , my husband looked for a beautiful house in Chennai for us to move in after wedding. 

Address : C3 502 , Akshaya Homes , Urapakkam , Chennai.

There is a small ceremony for the house warming and we did a pooja before moving in to the house. Below are some pics from the House Warming Ceremony.

We purchased all the furnitures and other household appliances and the home was ready for the new life. :)

Bills and Delivery details of furnitures and other stuffs attached.

Between the Engagement and marriage  , we had been to so many places , beach , park , hotels , movies etc.. Sharing some pics here from them.

July 10 2016 :

There was a grand Reception at Namakkal , my husband's place on July 9 2016 followed by a traditional wedding on July 10 2016

July 11 2016:

We had a grand Reception at Cuddalore , TamilNadu followed by the wedding.

We went for a trip together with my husband with my husband's brother and his wife who had visited India for our marriage. It was a trip to Thekkadi , a place in Kerela.

Aug 28 2016 - Sept 1 2016:

We went for our Honeymoon to Rajastan. We went from Chennai to Ahmedabad in Flight and then took a self drive car and it was a full road trip from then on. 
It was one awesome trip together after marriage. It is a desert and we did Camel Safari , Sand Dune Safari and the place was of monumental origin too.

October 2016:

We have a tradition called as 'Golu' which is a part of 9 day festival called Saraswati Pooja at our home. Our parents had arranged for a special prayer meet where people will perform pooja and bless us.

Oct 2016:

I work with Infosys and the organization has a world class training center at Mysore. I always wanted to take my husband to this Mysore Campus and it has a beautiful Palace. This has some trip pics.

Nov 2016:

Managalore Trip:

We went on a week long trip to Mangalore - Wayanad. This was one awesome trip which included Jet Ride , Ride through the hills and trek. It was a memorable trip.

Jan 1 2017:

This New Year we went to a trip to Allepey. I have written a travelogue on this trip , below is the write up.

A Trip to Allepey.. :)


Day 1:
Started at 3.30 AM from Chennai with Sivaguru

, amma and Charu in Car. Appa joined us in villupuram. The journey continued thru Salem, Coimbatore.  We had our breakfast at Hotel Ananda Bhavan,  Salem. Then the travel continued thru Palakkad,  Thrissur, Ernakulam, Cochin and Allepey. We booked 'Pathan's Home stay at Kainakary village, ALLEPEY thru Airbnb and that was one of the best decision we have ever made.

The most remarkable part of the trip was Praveen's(our host) Dad Mr. PATHAN'S food. It seems that he has been a professional cook at house boats for a longer period and has retired now. He cooked the complete meal for us throughout the trip. We reached our homestay at 4PM, Praveen guided us the way,  and throughout our way we were soo refreshed to see the green paddy fields, White birds dotting the green paddy fields was an excellent sight.

The narrow roads beside the lake was an interesting cover. The sight of Schools at the bank of the river, the narrow bridge which can accommodate only one car at a time, Cute Authentic Houses on one side of the road and the clean calm backwaters at the other side, exquisite Houseboats travelling for their night rest with their guests and there we reached our home stay.  Car Parking with 50 mts away  from home, we walked with our luggages thru the cute narrow roads with coconut trees bordering the lake to our neat, calm villa.

We were graciously welcomed by Mr. Pathan and his wife. After refreshments-hot chai and pazham bajji we started for our evening walk alongside the backwaters. Dad was busy correcting his half yearly answer sheets and we had to leave him there. The backwaters claims an ecstatic view with  calm coconut trees at the banks, hundreds of house boats with different styles, right from the normal ones to a grand posch cruise type Houseboats. They were anchored at the corners of the backwaters after 6 o clock. They were specially decorated with tingling lights for the new year weekend and it was an worthy watch for us. We were awaited with a delicious menu - chapathi, Pepper Chicken Curry, Beans poriyal, Dhal, Carrot Poriyal,  Fresh Water Fish Fry and rice. Veg dishes  were out of the mark, we have not tasted such delicious veg dishes at any hotels so far. We emptied all the dishes - a special hats off to Mr. PATHAN.

After a small chit chat we fell asleep as it was a tiring day of travel.

Day 2:
We started our day with the boat ride for the view of sunrise. The boat took us through the lambs river to the vembanad lake, the biggest one in kerela.  We were so wanting to see the sunrise this time. As we rode thru, the guests at the anchored Houseboats were enjoying the nature's view. we were riding fast to the view point, when my sissy saw the hot orange ball of fire thru the coconut trees. That was a noteworthy sight.

 The sun was in glowing orange and was in a complete 3D ball shape ready to spread out his elegant rays. The 2 mins watch of the bright orange hot ball was to be cherished forever. The captain  of our boat took us to the bank of the backwater for the sun view with the green paddy fields. The sun god was so gracious that he accepted to pose with us along with the paddy fields before he started spreading his yellow rays.

 We then continued our ride thru small canals with traditional houses on both sides. It was truly 'The Venice of South India'. Mind blowing sight they are - Words cannot match the feel that it gave. At both the sides of the canal people at their home were busily readying themselves for their day time activities.

After the cute ride we reached our place. The authentic taste of Kerela - Puttu, Idiyappam, Kadala Curry and hot milk.
We planned to visit the famous St. Mary's church - the vinnai thaandi varuvaya fame. The church stood elegantly beside the lake. Then we visited the Edathua Church were we had a chance to see the kerela Christian Wedding. Then we reached our home, had our lunch - I had to speak abt the menu :P. KARIMEEN, Mor kuzhambu, karikkai curry, soya curry(meal maker), beetroot poriyal, sambar, kerela Rice and Pine Apple pachadi. Everything was perfectly cuisined.
We then took a small nap, followed by lakeside walk in the evening. Tried some fishing with fishing nets as we walked by the lake.

We planned to celebrate the new year eve at allepey beach.  Our host Praveen also joined us for the celebration. After the dinner at 9 we headed to the allepey beach. Though it was heavily crowded,  we managed to find a parking lot and walked to the beach. It was a long coast and people were spread across the entire stretch. With the milaga bajji shops, sundal, ice creams, hot snacks shops and a musical show hosted , the place was full of fun and energy. When we reached the area near the stage there were thousands of people seated down listening and enjoying the show. It was so colorful to see helium balloons in each one's hand. We came to know that those balloons will be flown to the sky at 12 AM. We bought some red and yellow helium balloons for ourselves too and joined the celebration.

There were some peppy tamil songs which added to our excitement. The count down started from 10,9,8,7... And the new year is born. All the helium balloons were flown up and it was one awesome sight. Thousands of balloons were flying high, colorfully dotting the black sky.

They flew high and high and as they moved out from our sight we started walking towards our parking lot. With 'aaluma doluma' song on high volumes we drove back to our place with full of energy and excitement...:)

Day 3:
The new day of the new year started with the visit to the shivan temple,  a few minutes walk from our place.
The homestay can be tagged as ' The Best', May it be the Location - a beautiful lake view in front of the house, serene interiors, calm sit out area, Dine Space with lake view and most lovely thing is Our host and his family. Praveen was an super excellent host,  he assisted us with all the requisites,right from tracking us to the location, guiding us with trip planning, all preparations for the new year celebrations and the list goes on..

 With breakfast served, followed by the cake cutting and photoshoots, we started our journey back with full of memories that are to be cherished for a lifetime. :)

Jan 2017 : 

Pongal is a big celebration in our place which is a harvesting festival and it wil be celebrated for three days. First Pongal after marriage  , we call it as 'Thala Pongal' . We will be cooking Rice and Jaggery in a pot and will offer to Sun God.

I got conceived this year on my husband's birthday and there on life has been most beautiful. I have writted blog already on the entire journey and below is the blog.



Pregnancy Stardom:

The best part of life is your pregnancy period. All in one shot period though.. Happiness, Excitement, Love, Romance, Fights, Frustration, Expectations, Care, Anxiety, Fear - Name a feeling,  you will experience in these 40 weeks. Every happening in these 40 weeks will be bound to the little one in you. I tried penning down every small and big occasions that brought in joy through these days.

Disclaimer : It is pretty long article :P

It humbly takes the pleasure in expressing gratitude to all the beautiful people who were supporting and travelling with me in this cute journey. Every day is designed with its own beauty and I tried to bring in all of them in a nutshell together. People in my day to day life owns a special mention here , they make my life more interesting and lively. I chose to describe all my lovely people with their bond with me here and not by their names, to make the write up more connecting to the ones I refer to.

Life is knitted with astounding moments and it lies in the perspective of how we consume them. There were lots and lots of
trivially happy moments which I have perceived as astounding ones here and there were few bitter moments too which I have to overlook.

This write up is also an end product of self analysis which made me realise how to enjoy every simple moment of life. Each one of us can make ourselves happy in realising how blessed we are and be contented with what we are.

Let's celebrate the beauty of life. :)

April 8 2017:

FriendsForFamily I call them. :) It was a small get together planned with my buddies and they were at home to meet up as my friend was travelling to Australia and my husband's birthday celebration added as a compliment. :P

Though I had not confirmed with pregnancy, some instinct of me was telling to buy two small booties and pack it with a bow as a birthday gift to him. I dint get them though as it was too early for me to confirm on the little baby inside.

We celebrated the birthday with a small cake at midnight and went off to sleep.

April 9 2017:

Me and Mom woke up at 5 as we were to get ready for one of my childhood bestie's baby shower function. Suddenly something popped in my mind and I checked the 'baby confirmation' test which turned positive. It was a pleasant surprise when I ran to my mom telling her in a nervous voice that this angel has come into our lives. She was super excited. I then ran to my husband who was happily sleeping, whispered into his ears ' ', the most expected line that a husband would want to hear from his wife. He was dumbstruck and he sprang up in shock and confirmed the cute statement again with me. We then shared this sweet news with my dad, Sissie and friends.

I had to stay at home as everyone insisted 'no travel' with all other cute advice and suggestions that followed up. It was a beautiful day as my another friend came home with her family(her kuttie angel lithika) and we had an awesome lunch together. It was one unforgettable day where you had all happiness put in a bunch together. My little one already started bringing in happiness to the family.

April - May : Blessing in Disguise

We shared the good news with all our kith and kin and they happily blessed us.

So already my mind has started buzzing around with baby care nutrition and started the diet with all Good Food.. :) Mommies Mind is really so special, they start living for the little one right from day 1. We started browsing for good doctors in our locality and ended up with a clinic which is half an hour away from our home. This is one beautiful part life which every girl is blessed to live through. Luckily I hardly had any morning sickness, nausea and other early pregnancy symptoms and I was allowed to thoroughly enjoy my days with the little one.

April 17 2017:

We were ready for the first check up with all nervousness pinned up. My Mom wanted to go to a temple before visiting the doctor and we visited the nearby Temple and settled down at the clinic's waiting area. It was all butterflies running through in my tummy as we waited for our turn. Fingers crossed and to hear it from the doctor that it is a confirmed one. Kutti kutti anxieties will be riding with us all through this 9 months, and we are free to enjoy them to the fullest.

Doctor made an initial scan and confirmed that our little one is in the right position and showed us a tiny dot in the scan screen. We were searching for the baby and said 'yes yes we are able to see the little embryo now' with happy minds.

The usual tablets and other medications were piled up on the prescription list and we started happily and reached home with tummies filled with hot biriyanis from thalapakkati and heart and mind filled with extreme joy and happiness.

The complete month was full of super good diet food with dates, almonds, grapes, Apples, Oranges, walnut, carrots, beetroots, greens etc etc etc., Blind belief that the little one will get all the nutrients that it wants, started having wholesome meals. :) My hubby returned home every day with a different fruit and yummy food that I wanted. He was more cautious than me in taking care of the little one.

June 2017:

Third month started with a yummy lunch from Mom with all variety rice. Mom's every single sacrifice and love will be felt the most during this period

Tingling tastes with all flavours.

First Trimester scanning was scheduled on June 7. We were introduced to another Doctor by our family well-wisher and it was one good decision made. Manager Uncle - I call him , their family is the one who are by our side for the past 27 years supporting us throughout. The doctor seemed to be so appealing to us and she did not want to overload us with more medications , it was all in right proportion.   Our scan centre was an awesome place and we did not wait in long queues for the screening. Our little one was also so gracious to pose beautifully for all the required check during the scan. My husband and grandma were allowed to see the baby movements and the heart beat in digital effect was a blessing to be heard. My grandma was over excited and imaginative that she saw little one's hand was wavering.

                                                              Little one's hand.. :P

I was pampered like a kid everywhere. At office my loving friend would get me all tasty food I wanted everyday from the infy foodcourts and with another friend's homemade food, I enjoyed my daily lunch.. I had a bigggg craving for yummy food and I happily allowed my tummy to fulfill its desires. I was also cautious over the nutrition that I had to give to my little one. Followed many mommy blogs and my mom's expert advice, I had the privilege to have a wholesome diet everyday. My Mom used to spend her entire day in browsing through the internet for health tips and would be sending me all the required tips everyday through voice messages in whatspp (Technology.. :P ).  Like every other Mom she was super excited as well and keep pinging me with thousands of to-do list. I had to silently follow them and Yes they were very helpful indeed to have a smooth pregnancy ride. For every small disturbance that I have my Mom would have a remedy for it. :)

The mandatory pregnancy food

Milk flavoured with saffron

The ride was a little difficult at times when we suffer from mood swings. Husband will be the first target to throw ur tantrums.

May be the pregnancy mood swings has not failed to take me over.I had to gradually overcome them as they were eating away my happy times and I was successful in fighting over them.:)


My close friend was leaving to Australia and we planned for a small gettogether at Pondy. There were no objections from my family for the travel as they always knew my friends are so near to my heart. We had a two day trip that had a beautiful homestay, chit chats, photo shoots, aurobindo ashram's nature walk to the big golden globe, hot pizzas, wonderful beach walks and sand houses, rainy rides, mangoes, biriyanis, kulfis and Ice Creams, dreamy photoshooting from the talented gokul etc etc. It was a heartwarming trip that made me sooo happie, the most wanted feel for a pregnant girl.

I would say all my friends were very lucky to get a very supporting life partner. They allowed us to have all little happiness that we wanted..

July 2017:
Maternity Purchase for attires to accommodate my little one.

After a gap of few months we reached cuddalore. Mom and Dad arranged for a small function - seemandham to celebrate their grandie.
Dad needs to have a special mention, This young man does nothing for himself but everything for his little girls. I always wonder what his little girls would give him back. My little one is the first gift that we are destined to give him.. He was at his happiest times now.
Shout out a cheer to all the Dad's out there.
To My dad and My little one's Dad. :)

It was a cute gettogether of close friends and families and we enjoyed eating lovely dishes - 9 varieties of rice and sweets were served.
I chose to wear the sarree gifted by my very own well wisher. The function made us so happy and we were blessed by many good hearts.

We also celebrated our first wedding anniversary with utmost joy with mom, dad, sis and grandma. With the Temple visit in the morning and cake cutting in the evening the day was even more special with our little one.
This cute little thingy inside my tummy doubled the happiness of every small occasion.

This month was even more special as there was one more addition to the family as my husband's brother and his wife was blessed with a baby boy. I had to wait for few more days to meet him as it was a pretty long journey to my husband's native. 

I should not miss the fun and care that I had at my workplace. Full of caring voices around and a very supportive team I was so lucky to have those people who made my work at workplace so interesting and enjoyable. I had a lovely team who supported me to work peacefully throughout my pregnancy. There were many sweethearts around me, one would carry my laptop bag till the bus bay advising me not to carry heavy bags, other would keep advising me not to take much work pressure, as I walk down my odc I had lots of good voices enquiring on my health and the baby. It was an awesome workplace which gave me the comfort and joy to work. 

August : Month of Celebrations

This  August month brought in many cute celebrations and good news as well. We had the Krishna Jayanthi Celebrations with all my hubby side relatives. They came to chennai for a long weekend and ofcourse to meet me and the little one. They are the sweetest of all people I have ever seen in my life. Lucky I am to have them all in my life. With cute voices calling 'Anni' and 'Chithi' and so on,a family most loved, I have. 

We had a full day non veg meal on a day followed by a outing to movie and little shopping. My athai made all yummy dishes and we were eating the whole day. Lovely hearts by our side is the only want that every soul in this world longs for. I had many lovely hearts by my side celebrating the festive with love. I wish I be by them forever and forever. 

We were all dressed up for the krishna jayanthi celebration. We drew little feet walking from the doorsteps till the pooja room, luckily next year we would have two little feet to walk over for the krishnar paadham. Athais were busy preparing rava laddoos, Sakkarai pongal and other dishes for the pooja and me and my hubby made a small purchase with small gifts for the guests. With the chanting krishnar mantras and songs, the day ended up with photoshooting and dinner. 

The most remarkable part of the celebrations was my hubby's grandma who travelled all the way from namakkal to visit us in spite of her sickness. We love her for the love she showed us. Such an angel she is. 

This month is so special as I started feeling the baby movements inside. My husband started speaking with the little one and we had a lovely time together as we spent more time talking, cooking and taking care of the little one together. There will be a glass full of juice and some more juice and cut fruits packed up for the day before I wake up, he does not miss them even for a single day. So much love for his kid and of course me.. :) 

Of course we had small fights here and there but managed to patch up within few hours. 

There were other celebrations that added up in the month - ganesh chathurthi and the Saraswathi Pooja. I wanted to make all the celebrations grand this time. We are blessed with such a wonderful life and every moment of it is to be enjoyed and cherished. Ganesh Chathurthi celebrations with three types of kozhukattai , sundal and other sweets and fruits . With our small ganesh idol we had a lovely pooja time with  vinayagar mantras filling our home with sanctity.

We bought a valaigaapu doll set for the golu at home , it was a cute set with adorable colors.

We were not travelling to native for the golu this time and decided to pack up the set to Cuddalore.

Ayudha Pooja preparations were at its peak with all the cleaning and other stuffs for the pooja and we had a tiring day of work. I am a sarree freak and choose to wear different ones for each occasion.

Life is beautiful , when we think and cherish the memory of every little joyous thing that has happened in our lives. There are always little happenings which tries to spoil the beauty of life, we should gradually develop a maturity and make a clear demarcation and try to enjoy all cute on goings.

Our tradition is beautifully built that we get many celebrations to develop a positive vibrations in the family. Lets have time for our family amidst all the busy professional life. Its Divine, Its happy , Its Joyful. 

Messages from friends enquiring about our health will be really soothing. A simple thing it might seem to, these pings and messaged makes us feel so special.  Juz tried putting in few cute messages. 

Amidst these celebrations we did had our anamoly scan for the baby and my little one was always very supportive.there will be a chill line running through your spine till the doctor completes her scan and certify 'Your baby is in good position.. :)'  We dint want to wait for the baby's position for long and had the scan done with all positive results. After each major scan I had a deal with my husband that I should be taken to some temple. :P We went to the famous Ashtalakshmi Temple at Adayar and with yummy ice creams filing our taste buds we drove back home.

Our kiths and kins should definitely have a special mention. There would be calls and messages from our dear relatives who are far away from us , which makes us feel so special. There would be enquiries about the baby with some lovely suggestions and health tips. Friends and Relatives always play a vital role in moulding the happiness of life. We were blessed with loving relatives and caring friends that forms a loving loop. My hubby side relatives were all so kind that they had a constant touch with us though they stay far from us. 

 My sister needs a special mention , she always has utmost care and love for me and she deliberately waited for the little one to arrive. She stayed with us at Chennai and we had wonderful time together chit chatting till late nights.

My sister is my first baby, she is so close to my heart, I still remember the day when I held her hand and made her walk for the first time when she was 8 months old, I still remember the day when I dressed her up with uniform and took her to school for the first day. She has given me better experiences of motherhood. And she is now waiting for her turn to hold my little one's hand. 

September :

My valaigappu was planned at my husband's native. My hubby's relatives took utmost care in every little happening in the function and I had a very happy time enjoying the care of relatives around. 

I was over joyous in meeting the little addition to the family, my hubby's brother's son. He is a bundle of joy, as I held him in my arms, I was super excited and happy.  His mom would be my every day partner to discuss out all little things and his dad would travel all the way across the sea to celebrate this little one's baby shower function. 

I had all wonderful people around, my hubby's brothers and their wives need an explicit mention though. They were the sole reason for our wonderful wedded life. My special bow :) 

The function was a cute one with all preparations in place and all celebrations out of bound. 

There were few more cute happenings in this beautiful period. Our closest friends were also expecting their little ones soon. These people are very special in our lives and we are indeed very happy that they are enjoying this awesome 'parents to be feel' as well. 

Tradition drove me to my native with Mom and Dad after the function. Yes, it is my own hometown, though there were jingles of happiness rolling around, there is also one side which feels sad to miss my better half for another few days. Ofcourse I need to be back in Chennai to continue my work at office.. :P

One awesome time every girl can have at mommies place. A peaceful sleep, wholesome meal, kid like pampering, evening walks in beach with mom and dad, yummy homemade dishes, life cannot be more graceful than this. 

Back to Chennai. Third Trimester Scanning and doctor's check up followed up. It was a quiet month of work, food and rest. 

October 2017:

October 3 is one special day, our destinies were decided two years back on this very day at Vadapalani Temple. Ours is an arranged cum love marriage, a Tamil Matrimonial Courtesy. :P

We went to the temple to celebrate the very special occasion. Way back home with yummy biriyanis from yaa mohideen. 

Mid of October had an unexpected happening which made us very depressed but we managed to get back, hoping everything is planned as per destiny and with the blessings of the eternal souls. 

Diwali celebrations were a bit milder with a small pooja and a temple visit in the evening.it's the 9th month and I had to travel to my native. Rains were predicted in Chennai and we wanted to be in a comfortable place as we are getting prepared and nearing the Due Date of the little one.

That Pondaati ooruku poita moment: 

My hubby always keeps himself away from keeping WhatsApp status unlike me. But this time he deliberately wants his WhatsApp status to be updated.As we started driving from our parking lot, the car suddenly came to  halt and the voice beside me asked to keep the below image as his status. I am an obedient wife. :P

Home Sweet Home :

Mom was all set, completely transformed as a nutrition and dietist, perfect chef, health care professional, siddha specialist etc etc., 

Dad assisted me with the evening walks as we went to temples everyday in the evening. 

Something was felt missing, Should be the one and a half years of togetherness is being missed, the wait for my 'busy entrepreneur' hubby to come over weekends is interesting though.

As a sign of preparedness, we made a small shopping for the 'to be' mom and baby. 

Me and my sis celebrate our bday on Nov 6. It was a cute simple birthday festive with a cake cutting and a temple visit. 

With video calls with all near and dear ones the days were happier than ever before. 

Every month has a period has 30 days except the last month which has 1330 days. Fingers crossed to push these 30 days, 9 months of preparation to fall in love for a lifetime. I am too excited to wait. 

Last month seemed to be so long and as the maternity leave started I was even more bored and I no more had office work. 

With general check ups to the hospital and daily small outings, the days went on very slow. My hubby managed to come home twice a week. 

Mom prepared nine varieties of rice again this time and it was super yummy. I am having this kinda food with all varieties for the sixth time since I was conceived and I was ready to have it any number of time too.. 

Mom wanted to make me up with the traditional poo jadai and we did a small photos hoot. 

Then there came the kaarthigai deepam, the festive of lights. The usual lightie decorations adorned our home. 

Dec 4, 2017:

Rains and Cyclone were expected in our place and we were a bit scared as the D Day came closer. We went for the regular check up on this day. The doctor did an internal examination and told that I might get the delivery pain anytime from now. The signs for a normal delivery was good, though there might be some last minute reasons due to which they might do a c section. 

Physiotherapist gave some exercises to induce labour. 

Right from the day 1 of conception, we used to think how nice it would be if we had our baby birth on Dec 5,as it was my husband's Mom's birthday. We are skeptical whether it would happen because the expected delivery date was Dec 12.

We are back home and I was busy doing all the exercises and my mom was packing the hospital bag as the doctor asked us to admit on Dec 7 if I dont get the pain. 

I had a complete idea of how the labour would be. I deliberately wanted the baby through normal delivery. My mom was over conscious too and she prepared me for the same with extra cared food and exercises.

My dearest aunt and her daughter gave me all tips to face the labour and I am now waiting to apply each one of it. 

That night was not as easy as expected. I got my labour pain at 10.30 at night but it was not so intense. It occurred at a frequency of every 5 mins and I was sure this was the start of labour. I dint want to go to the hospital as it would be too early and the doctor would not wait too long as well. 

I would say the complete journey of the labour was shared equally(to be frank more than 50%) by my husband. 

Dec 5 2017:

As I was in pain for every 5 mins, there were soothing words and a gentle massage from my husband throughout the night. He also made sure that the pain is not very intense and asked me each time if we need to start to the hospital. There were also other signs of labour nearing and I was preparing myself mentally for the wonderful experience. It was 4 in the morning, I had read in many articles that a warm water bath would be supportive and I managed to do the same and I came out to the living room. 

I chose to wear my favourite yellow skirt.. :P

It was 5.30 AM, I called my sister who was in chennai to start immediately as I wanted her to be my side and she was so wanting to hold the little one immediately after birth. 

I also called my sissy's friend who was doing her medicine final year to confirm on the symptoms and also double checked with my dear aunt whether these are the real signs of labour. 

My mom saw me sitting fully dressed up to the hospital and was shocked completely as she did not know that I was in pain for the entire night. There should be enough stamina for this day, so I had a filling breakfast coz I dont want to be out off energy when in labour. Hubby, Dad and myself started to the hospital as my mom was packing the stuffs. The hospital was just a 10 mins drive away. 

The doctor examined and she said that I will deliver the baby within evening. So the point is after the 12 hrs of sustainable pain there is six more hours pending. 

As I was sitting in the reception, waiting for the admission process, I called my sissy to confirm whether she neared our place and asked her to come straight to the hospital. 

We then took the lift to the first floor. There were two ladies who asked if I am the patient waiting for delivery and started giving good suggestions. They were like, the pain will be awful but don't ever insist a c section to the doctor just because you are unable to bear the pain. This pain wil last for hardly a day but he pain after c section is for a lifetime. And they also said that there will be a frequency in pain, if it pains for 2 mins we will be relaxed for 1 min and other related stuffs were also explained. 

It was 10.25 and the nurse handed over a slip which had the word 'Delivery Kit'. As he went to the pharmacy downstairs, the nurse started preparing me for the next process. 

I had to change my attire to a comfortable one, and was waiting for my mom. I am now all set and the pain injection was given through drips. Enima was given, the stomach cleaning medico. I had to run to the washroom and back to the bed with the pain accompanying me as well. My hubby had to do all the assisting work and he dint hesitate even a second. He is a blessing in disguise, I would say. 

And yes, I am into delivery pain, the most intense pain that anyone could bear. It was 

11 AM and the pain reoccured every 2 mins and lated for 3 mins. My hands were tightly held by my Dad who was sitting beside my head and my hubby was giving a gentle pat on hip as the pain was as though I should remove my hip and place it aside. 

My Mom is not a strong person and she could not afford to see me suffering in pain so she did not enter the room. 

The nurses wanted all the gents to move out and asked my sister to enter in. The birth canal cleaning process was to take place and was a complete red show. It was painful indeed but I was following some strategy to overcome the pain. :P. I was suggested that if we deeply concentrate on the pain, it's intensity and it's trend we would feel a bit relaxed, and yes, it did work out well. I was able to cooperate well with the nurses which assisted to reduce the time of labour pain. My sister became completely exhausted after seeing the internal processes and fainted in the room. She has to be given extra juices to steady up and again my dad and hubby took their positions back. 

The hospital where I was admitted was an extraordinary place, they had a neat procedure and only when the patient in 90% ready they will move to the labour room and call the doctor. The nurses were all well trained. 

After 2.5 hours the nurse told, she is dilated to 8.5 cms and we should move her immediately. 

I was asked whether I need a stretcher or I can walk into the labour room which was a few yards away. 

I preferred to walk which I thought would give me some confidence. When  I came out, I saw my Mom walking swiftly to and fro in the verandah, people looked weirdly at me as I was walking comfortably into the labour room. 

I had an idea of how the room would look as me and my hubby visited the place a day back to just make ourselves comfortable. I was laid down and the doctor came in. I requested the doctor to allow my hubby in as I would be comfortable and relaxed if he is with me. She is an awesome person and nodded with a smiley face. My hubby is now in and stood bear my head holding my hands. 

The doctor then explained me how I should push the baby out. The pain comes in a frequency, when there is pain I should hold my breath and push with full force. In fact I had some strategies here as well as explained by my aunt's daughter.:P I should not breathe out while pushing rather breathe in. 

First Try:

First time when I got my pain, I informed the doc and started pushing, with all people around supporting me with words like PUSH, PUSH, PUSH.. The effort was in vain, the pain is gone and I have to wait for the next pain. 

Second Try:

The second one was also in vain and the doctor was like, 'ennama neenga'. You should cooperate a little more. I was a bit afraid as I know if I become tired and not able to put effort, there would be suction tubes to pull my baby out or I might enter into c section. I made up my mind to do it in the next two times and also decided to start pushing only after 10 seconds when the pain starts so that the intensity of the pain will support me as well. 

Third Try:

Now my strategies seem to work out and the doctor was like 'Good Good, extraordinary..' And hubby was telling me that the head is now visible and a little more effort is required..but I lost energy this time too.. 

Fourth Try:

The doctor told this time when I putting my effort the nurse would put some pressure on my tummy which would ease the baby out. There was a small cut made to make enough space for the baby's head to move out. This time I had some soothing touch over my head by my hubby and he said we can do it this time for sure and he seemed to be tensed. I chose not to see the doctor or the proceedings around as I am very allergetic to blood and scissory stuffs. It pains and now I started pushing and the nurse gave a hard push on my tummy and the people around went on saying.. Good, come on, extraordinary, avlo dhan, vandhutanga.. Etc etc.. I sensed  a heavenly feeling when the baby moved out and there we are..!!! The beautiful cry of the baby and the voice of the doctor said BABY BOY.. 1.35 PM.

I now opened my eyes to look at my hubby to ask, 'Vicky, are yu OK with a Baby Boy' as my hubby wanted a girl. He was literally in tears and said 'Thambi romba azhaga irukan' and started kissing me.. Doctor was in all smiles. 

The gyno profession is such a noble one and we are really very grateful to my midwife. 

Baby weighed 3.22 kg they said and my hubby was asked to move out as there were other stuffs to be carried out. I dint see my baby yet as the paediatrician was observing him. He was kept under respiratory guidance. 

There was 20 mins of post delivery processes which was painful indeed but I did not feel the pain as I had the bliss of hearing my son crying out loud beside me. 

My parents and sissy were allowed to see my son and my sister came running to me saying,

Sumi, Thambi azhaga irukan di with teary eyes.. 

Everyone went out now and as my baby was being nursed, he shouted APPA APPA twice and nurses and others there were shocked to see him cry like that.. It was a big shock for me in fact when one of the nurse told, ur mom has suffered so much to bring you out and you are shouting APPA.. :) 

My eye power is to be blamed now, I asked the nurse there to show my baby and she lifted him but my poor eyes needed spectacles now. 

I asked my mom to bring my specs and saw my son who was 10 feet away from me now in a respiratory observer. After half an hour, the beautiful journey of motherhood started as I had to feed my little one. When mom took him away from me after feeding, this little one caught my finger tightly. No other situation can ever match this feel which I was experiencing. 

It's true that when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest form of love you will ever know.. 

I am double happy that my son is born on my hubby's mom's birthday and he would not miss his mom hereafter as she is now going to be with us forever and forever in the form of this little champ. 

We are naming our little one AMUDHAN (my MIL name being Amudha) as decided earlier. 

#BabyAmudhan

The happily ever after story continuessssz... :)

PostScript PhotoStories.. 

After my son's birth , Life has been even more beautiful and we are a closely bonded family thereafter. 

Dec 5 2017:

This is the best day of my life. In the below pic , my husband is holding my son for the first time.